Supporting YOUR birtH EXPERIENCE,body & soul

Looking For A San Diego-Based Doula But Not Sure Where to Start? 

Do you feel overwhelmed preparing yourself for childbirth? Does having more one-on-one support during pregnancy, childbirth and postpartum sound good to you? Have you heard how great doulas are but not really sure what they do?

Congratulations on the imminent arrival of your baby. While you’re hopefully excited for the big day and the changes in store once you meet this beautiful new human, pregnancy can be an overwhelming experience. There are so many things to plan, decisions to make, new things to learn. Perhaps you were relying on your care provider to be the primary source of support during your pregnancy, however you may have already noticed they aren’t spending as much time with you as you’d imagined. If you’re getting shuffled in and out of your prenatal appointments in short order, you’re not alone. Most care providers are quite busy and rarely have time to slow down and explain things to the level of satisfaction you may have been hoping for. 

 

Most Expectant Families Could Use Additional Support

If you’re like most of us, you could really benefit from someone helping guide you through preparing for childbirth and postpartum from a neutral, objective perspective. Although you’re likely fortunate to have family members, friends and coworkers to talk to, sometimes you’ll discover you have differing views about things or, if they gave birth in a different generation, it may be challenging to relate to their experience. You might be getting unsolicited advice coming at you left and right, but sometimes it’s hard to sift through it all to determine if the advice being dispensed is evidence-based fact or just a recycled old wives’ tale. While it’s meant to be well-meaning, it can sometimes leave you feeling confused. 

You might have noticed by now that the birth stories being shared with you are rarely uplifting and positive. Chalk it up to human nature that stories recounting endless hours of excruciating labor are more commonly shared than stories about a calm, peaceful, uneventful birth. Perhaps they make for more dramatic storytelling, but they can inaccurately skew your thoughts about pregnancy to the negative. And how is your partner holding up? They may be reacting in all sorts of different ways but most of the time they feel out of their depth. They know they want to support you as much as they can but may not be quite sure how to do that. That’s why having a birth doula in your corner can be such an invaluable resource.

 

A Birth Doula Provides That Support

I’m honored for the opportunity to assist you with this wonderful and exciting journey into parenthood. My goal is for expectant families to feel PREPARED, POSITIVE and EMPOWERED when the big day comes. Within our current birth culture, it’s not uncommon for expectant parents to focus most of their preparation on accumulating all the things baby will need once they arrive, but oftentimes little consideration is given to HOW their baby will make its arrival. 

When thought is given ahead of time to the atmosphere your baby will enter when transitioning from womb to world, it can transform an already profound moment into a truly magical experience. It’s also a tremendous benefit for you to understand what is happening within your body to create this miracle, as well as recognize and honor the truly awesome power you possess to bring life into this world. Not only will I be there for you and your partner during labor in every way, but I will also guide you in your journey to learn all there is to know ahead of time so that they feel prepared for birth, both physically and emotionally. 

Just as every family is different, so is every birth. Regardless of what type of birth a family decides is best for them and their baby, they deserve the special support only a doula can give. And while there are never any guarantees the birth will go according to plan (because let’s face it, baby is in charge), it’s essential to know you have choices along the way and should always be an active participant in the process – the decisions you make for yourself and your baby matter.

Having a birth doula present is one of the best steps you can take to get the support you need to make informed choices, experience emotional wellbeing throughout labor, and feel prepared for all of the changes to come during and after pregnancy.  You may have heard about doulas but not sure what we do exactly. DONA International* defines a doula as “a trained professional who provides continuous physical, emotional and informational support to a mother before, during and shortly after childbirth to help her achieve the healthiest, most satisfying experience possible.” Those who hire a doula report a shorter, more satisfying birth experience.**  

Although my scope is is non-medical in nature, I am well-versed in the physiology of birth and dedicated to meeting your physical and emotional needs once you’re in labor. When labor starts, I will be your continuous support person, staying with you throughout labor; however, I provide this support with an objective viewpoint, remaining committed to your preferences without personal bias. I will encourage you throughout the challenges of labor, reminding you with positive and loving care that you are capable of giving birth to this baby, even when you may have stopped believing this yourself.  

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My Services

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The Destiny Doula Package

  • 1 Free Consultation/Interview Over Zoom or FaceTime
  • 2 Prenatal Home Visits (Additional Visits/Get Togethers As Needed)
  • Unlimited Email/Text Support to Answer Questions & Provide Referrals to Local Resources throughout Your Pregnancy & Postpartum
  • Assistance with Preparing Birth Preferences + Other Prenatal & Postpartum Preparations
  • 24/7 On Call Starting at 38 Weeks Until Birth 
  • Access to a Back-Up Doula
  • Continuous Support throughout Labor Until Birth (In Home, Hospital or Birth Center)
  • 2 Hours Postpartum Support to Assist with Breastfeeding
  • Photography of the Birth (Non-Professional – Using Client’s Camera or Phone)
  • 1 Postpartum Visit 7-10 Days After the Birth

Price:  $875

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The Destiny Doula Deluxe Package

  • 1 Free Consultation/Interview Over Zoom or FaceTime
  • 2 Prenatal Home Visits (Additional Visits/Get Togethers As Needed)
  • Unlimited Email/Text Support to Answer Questions & Provide Referrals to Local Resources throughout Your Pregnancy & Postpartum
  • Assistance with Preparing Birth Preferences + Other Prenatal & Postpartum Preparations
  • 24/7 On Call Starting at 38 Weeks Until Birth 
  • Access to a Back-Up Doula
  • Continuous Support throughout Labor Until Birth (In Home, Hospital or Birth Center)
  • 2 Hours Postpartum Support to Assist with Breastfeeding
  • Photography of the Birth (Non-Professional – Using Client’s Camera or Phone)
  • 1 Postpartum Visit 7-10 Days After the Birth
  • “Your Birthing Experience” – Summary of Notes Taken During Your Labor & Baby’s Birth with a Detailed Timeline of Events

Price:  $975

 

But you may still have questions about whether a birth doula is really for you.

Will a doula replace my partner and make them feel left out?

A common misconception is that a doula replaces or takes over the partner’s support role during labor and childbirth, which is entirely untrue. A doula is present to provide support to both the birthing person and their partner, by giving the partner suggestions of how to physically and emotionally provide comfort to the birth giver as well as answer questions and give the partner the opportunity to take breaks and maintain composure and confidence. A partner should feel as though they are in partnership with the doula with the support they’re giving you, never in competition.

I’m not sure I’ll end up having an unmedicated birth – aren’t doulas just for those?

Another misconception is that a doula is only required if you’ve decided to have an 

unmedicated birth; in fact, doulas can be just as supportive to clients who plan to have medicated or cesarean births (or start out with the goal of unmedicated birth but don’t end up that way). The key takeaway is that a doula is on hand to provide emotional and physical support as well as impart information to her client, services that are beneficial to a family regardless of the type of birth the client has planned or ends up having. Regardless of what kind of birth it is, the support a doula provides is always beneficial.

Can I really afford a doula?

If you’re unsure if you can afford a doula, there are many creative ways to clear this hurdle. Begin by evaluating your “must haves” for your baby; ask your friends and family who are already parents what are essentials vs. things they regret purchasing (or asking for as gifts) since they ended up collecting dust in the closet. You need less than you probably think. Get yourself tied into a “baby train” of passed along items or look for finds on OfferUp, Craigslist, FB Marketplace, etc. If you pay via Paypal you can use your credit card. You can even set up a “Doula Fund” at your baby shower.

 

Everyone Deserves A Doula

If you’re excited by the idea of a doula’s support, let’s connect to see if we’re a good fit. I have a contact page where you can send me an email, but if you’d rather text me, my phone number is 619-251-5092. From there we can set up a free 45-minute Zoom consultation where I can answer your questions and learn more about you and the support you’re looking for. You won’t regret the decision of hiring a doula, I promise!

 

"I would not have had the birth I had without doula Jenn and am forever indebted to her dedication and care in the birthing process..." (See Testimonials)

Roisin P.

"She was a guiding voice that day and I’m grateful she was a part of our birth story..." (See Testimonials)

Cris A.

"It’s not possible to praise or thank Jennifer enough for how supportive and invaluable she was to my birth experience! I don’t know how I could have done it without her and I feel so lucky that she was there for me working hard to ease my physical discomfort and mind..." (See Testimonials)

Natalie L.

"Jennifer is such a beautiful soul and I was so lucky to have her as my doula. Not only was she informative but she encouraged me all the way up to delivery..." (See Testimonials)

Latisha N.

"Honestly, I could not have homebirthed without Jenn. Jenn NEVER left my side. I had a super awesome husband and care team, yes, BUT Jenn blew everyone out of the water when it came to every part of the experience." (See Testimonials)

Ashley H.

"Jenn will forever hold a special place in my heart and that of my family's, especially my little baby boy's..." (See Testimonials)

Miranda F.

"She has just the right touch and took a lot of pressure off my husband. Even more importantly though, she has a heart of gold...It was so evident to me that she cared so much for me and my family. It isn’t just a job for her. I will never forget how she made me feel..." (See Testimonials)

Danielle G.

"I am so thankful to have found Jen to be my Doula! This was my 3rd baby, and a Doula plays an important role no matter how many times you’ve given birth. Jen was caring, supportive, comforting and extremely responsive.." (See Testimonials)

Jill S.

"Amazing, invaluable, kind, caring, patient, knowledgeable, experienced, supportive… These are just a few words to describe Jennifer Cole’s Doula Services..." (See Testimonials)

Sidney V.

There are no words to express how much we appreciate all that you’ve done for us. Your presence was an absolute God send during the most important evolution of our lives...

Ty S.

"Wow! I can’t say enough wonderful things about Jennifer! She was truly a God send after an unexpected induction..." (See Testimonials)

Merci R.

"She has a knowledge set that you can tap into to seek wisdom before and during labor. With my hypnobirthing education and training and her as a doula I felt much more prepared for my labor and birth of our baby girl... She was a HUGE support for my husband as he was able to take breaks and stay nourished during that full day...In hypnobirthing they use a lot of touch to help counter labor “pain” and hers was by far the best, better than my husband’s!..." (See Testimonials)

Julianne K.

"Jenn was incredible! She was with us for 37 hours of labor! She was a constant source of positivity, encouragement, knowledge of pain relief techniques and an extra set of helpful hands, which gave husband/coach a much-needed break..." (See Testimonials)

Kelsey B.

"I can honestly say, I do not know if I would have had such a positive experience if Jennifer wasn't part of the process." (See Testimonials)

Ana C.

"The tools she used to help me manage pain and stay mentally engaged while laboring were incredible. She was with us through the most intense time in our lives and we will always be so deeply grateful for her presence and care." (See Testimonials)

Abbey C.

Check out this an ABC 10 News San Diego segment in which I’m featured that discusses childbirth options outside the hospital during COVID-19.

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